The Relationship People, Jinglewood, Landford, Wiltshire Tel: 0800 298 5938 Email: help@therelationshipeople.co.uk
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Getting to the Heart of the Issue
1 or 2 day intensives for couples
When you’ve got a lot to lose
and want to cut through the pain faster
2. How to negotiate an amicable divorce
You’ve reached that stage where you’ve nothing in common. You are constantly aggravated by your partner. Respect is a distant memory as criticism, judgements and blame become commonplace. One or both of you has fallen out of love and there is no going back to sharing a life together. You’ve reached the end of the road and don’t know how to sort it out.
There are three very important reasons why it is worth working together to create an amicable separation or divorce:
- The costs of separation and divorce soon escalate if you cannot agree on basic principles. Lawyers need clear instructions to work efficiently on your behalf and divorce counselling will help you be less emotional and clearer about what you want.
- When children are involved their wellbeing is substantially enhanced by remaining in contact with both parents. Divorce counselling helps you maintain a practical relationship with each other beyond your separation.
- Your own wellbeing will be enhanced if you are able to leave behind the feelings of guilt, bitterness, revenge, or injustice. Value the times that were good, even if they didn’t last long. Moving through any negative emotions enables you to move forward to a healthier and brighter future.
The one day intensive ‘How to negotiate an amicable divorce’ is designed to:
- Get the issues out and stop them festering
- Remove bitterness from unresolved arguments
- Acknowledge the current position and take responsibility for it, without dwelling on blame or guilt
- Identify points of agreement - usually at the top level - such as wanting children to be safeguarded
- Identify points for negotiation - such as where you will each live and who will have care of the children
- Decide what additional support you need, eg financial advice, legal advice, mediation, divorce counselling, coaching or other support to re-establish self-esteem
- Provide outline information about grounds and options for separation and divorce
- Arrive at a practical and agreed plan to separate or divorce
Contact us now and book the intensive that’s right for you
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Venue
Somewhere neutral is really important. Usually we see people at our home in the New Forest. If this is not convenient we can make other arrangements.
We provide refreshments and lunch on the ‘intensives’. Bed & breakfast is included in the two day intensive cost.
“The atmosphere and space where sessions are held is important. Jenny and Nigel have got this spot on as it's quiet, comfortable, calming and there are few distractions so the most can be gained from the session.”
S.M. 2009
If the usual pattern of relationship counselling or coaching isn’t for you, swap the 6 - 10 sessions of an hour per week for a one or two day intensive.
Replace the slow but sure progress
With a focus on reaching a breakthrough and coming away with a clear plan of action you can begin to work on straight away.
FEES
A one day intensive costs £1,800.00 for both of you and includes lunch and refreshments.
A two day intensive costs £3,200.00 for both of you and also includes overnight accommodation.
Please contact us to find out more.
Call us free on
0800 298 5938
or email us at
help@therelationshipeople.co.uk
Whether you want to save your relationship or are thinking about separation and divorce, there are times when it’s worth paying extra attention to what is happening right now.
Some couples prefer to spend concentrated time and reach that elusive breakthrough point faster. Work out effective solutions to your problems and take home plans - which you can begin to implement straight away!
Our clients have told us they would like to spend more concentrated time on:
- Deciding whether to stay put or move on
- Negotiating an amicable separation or divorce
- Getting back on track and
Creating a shared dream for the future
So we have put together a series of special coaching days. On these you will work through to an action plan you can use to kickstart the rest of your life - whether together or apart.
Contact us now and book the intensive that’s right for you
You’ve taken a long, hard look at your relationship and realise something is missing. Life is pretty miserable when you are unhappy - you no longer notice the little things which used to gladden your heart and all you see is everything that’s going wrong.
Maybe you’ve simply drifted apart. Quite often there are other signs of unhappiness
- excessive flirting or affairs
- lack of intimacy between you
- a change in lifestyle you hadn’t bargained for, perhaps caused by illness, disability or childcare
- work patterns which mean you lead separate lives
- unacceptable behaviour such as alcohol or drug abuse, verbal or physical bullying, or pornography.
On the other hand you have a lot to lose and you’re not sure if it’s best to stay put or move on. Consider
- the cost of splitting your assets and living separately
- the effect on your capacity to work efficiently and well
- the impact on your immediate living arrangements
- your children’s peace of mind and security
- the daily contact with your children as they grow up
- relationships with friends, family and colleagues
- your home.
The ‘Staying put or moving on’ one day intensive is designed to
- Facilitate honesty and clear communication between you
- Raise awareness of the patterns that are at play between you
- Get the issues out and stop them festering
- Deal with denial about the current situation
- Put the focus on the present and the future rather than dwelling on the past
- Either arrive at decision to part with an action plan to do so amicably
- Or decide on an action plan for change with clear indicators of what needs to happen for you to recognise success
Contact us now and book the intensive that’s right for you
3. Save your relationship and
Create a shared dream for your future
Even when you know you love each other, the stresses of everyday living can take over and you find:
- You are no longer intimate
- You feel taken advantage of
- You continually argue over the same things
- You’ve stopped sharing your thoughts and ideas
- You no longer seem to be moving towards what you thought were shared goals
You may have an idea what’s caused you to drift apart
- Redundancy
- the demands of looking after your children
- the loss of someone close
- an imbalance between work and home
- money worries
- illness ....
Relationship or marriage counselling can help you when you are too close to your problems to see a way out. You know deep down you still love each other and it’s worth the effort now to prevent things drifting even further and splitting you apart.
Act now - most couples leave it far too late before they seek relationship or marriage
counselling - separation and divorce are unfortunately the inevitable next steps.
The 2 day intensive to ‘save your relationship and create a shared dream for your future’ is designed to
- Give you strategies to cope with things you cannot change
- Give you simple steps to improve the way you communicate
- Help you understand the principles and values you each live by
- Help you work out what you both want from your life together
- Show you a greater flexibility to change than you realised
- Support you to arrive at an action plan you both share responsibility for achieving
Contact us now and book the intensive that’s right for you